The problem with 3 men is the 3 personalities that go along with them.
Hubby: He is great. We have the same sort of upbringing. We like the same outdoor stuff and have always included the children. We still take them everywhere, even though they are grown. We do spur of the moment things. We kiss and say I love you every day. He tells me I’m beautiful, tells me all about his day. I look forward to him coming home from work and still find him cute as hell. It was love at first sight (yes there is such a thing). I knew I was going to marry him pretty much as soon as I met him. Sex was great from day 1 and he is still the only one that I can have an orgasm with. BUT…We are complete opposites. We don’t like the same movies. We don’t listen to the same music. He is a social butterfly, I’m not. He hates Disneyland, the fair or anyplace with large crowds and lines. I love Disneyland and the fair. He can’t be any place where he can’t get a beer, quickly. He has a temper and is narrow minded about a lot of things. He drinks and is in bed by 10 on the weekend. I am awake with time on my hands on Friday and Saturday nights.
#1: He is my favorite. He is the one that I crossed the line with first. He wanted me, I knew it and I wanted him just as much. I am in awe of him, sex is amazing. We like all the same things. We sing together. He is my type and has the perfect color eyes that I get lost in. We used to just lay on the floor in the living room and stare at each other for hours. Just being next to each other. Not knowing if we should, but wanting to so badly. I have been through a lot with him. We have said the ‘words’. We trust each other and have had this secret for a long time.
#2: is a pain in the ass. He had an idea that something had happened with #1 and he was very competitive with him. He initiated. I was attracted. He was very inexperienced, but I love how confident he is. There is no lack of girls fawning all over him. And while #1 is like a bouncy puppy when it comes to girls (all compliments and sweetness), #2 is calm, cool and collected. Never tips his hand. I find it extremely hot. He keeps his life private. If he had a motto it would be “fuck me and don’t ask questions.” It’s all about him and his dick, which is pretty nice. We just got back ‘together’ after fighting (mostly about me trying to end it) and ignoring each other on and off for a year. I keep hoping it’s over, but he keeps coming back.
So me and #2 are fighting. Again. Why? Because people in the know are saying that he has a girlfriend. I have seen her around, for the last 4 months, but now it is sounding like more of a commited thing. It’s also my guaranteed out, because my biggest rule is when they get girlfriends, we are done. Maybe only until they break up or whatever, but done.
Well I texted him and asked him about it. I explained why I needed to know, I don’t want some over-emotional teenage girl finding out he is screwing around on her and trying to find out who it is. If she should find out that it is me, that would be a problem. Of course I get no answer, because that would mean that I might find out about his life *gasp* and no more sex. So I wait a day. I text again and say
“Since you haven’t answered me back I assume that means you are in a committed relationship and we are done.”
He answers back. Finally.
“Why do you do this you know it pisses me off”
Oh my god. Wow. I responded with well I am pissed off too and I am glad you have a girlfriend so now we don’t have to piss each other off anymore. It was a simple yes or no question. Are you committed to her or not. Which btw he completely skipped around the subject and never even answered the question! I even explained how this actually helps him too, since I am keeping him from getting caught fucking around.
We’ll see where it goes from here. He makes me nuts.